Are you and your partner committed to your relationship? Is your partner? Does s/he have a commitment phobia? What does it all mean???
What's fascinating is that there are negative connotations and definitions for the word commitment. If you look up the definition, the first definition references being committed to a mental institution! So, committing to a relationship is the equivalent of needing to be held at a facility against without your consent because you are deemed a threat to yourself or others. Ummm... yeah, I don't want any part of that!
If the word by definition is confusing, no wonder its often hard to define and understand in the context of the complex, adult, connected, primary intimate relationship. So, how do you move towards the person you want to be with rather than turning or moving away?
The first step is to acknowledge that it's hard and that we carry all of our experiences and our understanding of the world and relationships with us and that it shapes what we think, what we hear, and how we feel.
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